It took years for me to learn that my feelings are not caused by my husband, mother, friend or other people. To know what Eleanor Roosevelt meant when she said, “No one can make me feel inferior without my permission.”
As you go about your day, you might become more aware of the happy people and the sad people. People create their happiness and sadness by first believing and “crazy gluing” it to their thinking.
In one of Cheri Huber’s books there is a cartoon of a woman with her head low and the front of her shirt reads, “Sad but Safe.” Being a victim feels safe to many people. We know others will try to comfort and understand us.
Happiness comes from being progressively wiser. If knowledge is power (and in this day and age it surely is), then fresh new knowledge is added power. It’s the surge at the stem of the brain that we all love to feel. Happiness comes to those of us who keep learning and take new actions based on that learning.